These are the men we need in this world.

"I could have pursued a relationship with my father but I was his child and that was his fucking job."

when I was 23 to 25 or so, I didn't speak to my dad for a few years. I figured he was never there for me when I really needed him, so now I didn't need him, why should I reach out? He complained to my sister and several other people, "She never calls me!" Dude...seriously? You never call me either. Phone works both ways. And YOU'RE the parent.

What a huge disservice the world did to men when it taught them that relationships were everyone else's job.

"But once you grow up and realize how much more money he could have given to my primary parent who was expected to raise me 90% of the time on $200 child support per month, per kid, you start to feel sick to your stomach."

Exactly this. Our poor mothers. And then these men had the audacity to complain that women and the courts "took their kids away." When my dad had me, he forgot to feed me (I have particularly vivid memories of eating raw flour because there was nothing else in the house, and accidently inhaling it until I learned to mix a little water in), never bathed me, and pawned us off on relatives. I'm pretty damn grateful my mom got most custody, and I still bare the scars from brief visits with my dad.