Thank you for writing this.

I had a similar situation with a manager. I told him repeatedly that I don't sleep with men until they've been tested for STIs. He said he understood. It's my way of pumping the brakes. I asked him if he could handle just making out and not having sex. He said yes. We made out, which was fine, then he put it in without asking, which wasn't fine. I froze. He finished, we barely said anything to each other, and he left.

I didn't want to lose my job, and even more than that, I didn't want to be a rape victim. So I told myself he hadn't understood, that he thought I wanted it. And I kept sleeping with him.

A year later, wrecked by memories, I called and told him to NEVER do what he did to me again to another girl. He knew EXACTLY what I was talking about. He knew he raped me that night. I made so many excuses for him, but he knew what he did and what he was. He was just thrilled that I didn't figure it out for a while.

I hope #MeToo really does change things and that future generations don't go through what we've gone through.