Some good points, Haris.
The thing I find infuriating is when men think they’re being rejected BECAUSE they’re nice, which is generally bullshit. If there’s existing attraction (as in the case of the guy I mentioned at the beginning of the post), niceness isn’t going to scare it away, and will often make it stronger.
But if there’s no attraction, nice actions (especially manipulative niceness) won’t bring attraction into existence.
And I agree, neediness and constant availability are attraction-killers. Everyone should have a mission or higher cause (even if it’s just personal development) that they’re committed to, and if a pretty face makes you abandon your mission, that’s unattractive! (A guy once quit all of his summer classes because he found out I was in town. I was not impressed.)