Society may not know what to do with me, but luckily, I know exactly what to do with me, and I'm happy to have escaped their boxes.

When I lived in Asia, I used to travel with a group of single women, all between age 32 and 40. We would go on adventures, stay in awesome AirBnbs, tour around and generally have a blast. I noticed 2 things right away:

1. these women never talked about men. When I asked about it, they said, yeah, we're just not interested.

and 2. We NEVER saw groups of men traveling around. Born at about a 50/50 mix, you'd think there'd also be roving bands of men getting out and experiencing life! But no. Apparently they were home in their basements or something - okay, that's probably not true, but you get what I'm saying.

I've also noticed that older single men seem desperate to get married or be in a relationship, where single women (especially those who've been married before) would rather stay single.

Anyway, on one point the research is clear. Single women fair better than single men. They're healthier, happier, their careers go better. In fact, the healthiest, longest lived cohort is single/never married women.

So society might tell you that single women are sad creatures, but society is wrong - honestly I'm beginning to think it's a way of trying to push us into marriages that don't benefit us.

I've actually got a conversation scheduled an hour from now with a guy I've been seeing. I already know what he wants - he wants to solidify our relationship.

I'll try to let him down gently.