I wish society provided us a way of marking miscarriage. I've had 2 miscarriages over the last 2 years. My family is mormon and I'm unmarried, so though my immediate family knows, I haven't told anyone else because it would be an embarrassment to my mother. Keeping loss like that to yourself can't be healthy. Someday, if I hear of another woman who has a miscarriage, I'll ask her if she wants to hold a ceremony something like the one you described here. I think rituals that help us mark tough events in our lives can also help us heal.